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Why “Curate” Grief?

Curating is choosing with intention.

1. We are all curators. You may not have a gallery space or work with art, but you make choices every day about what takes up space in your home and your life.

2. After the death of a loved one or other significant loss, we are inevitably faced with difficult choices. Choices about who gets what. What goes where. What we say or do. We can use “curating” as a beautiful lens for making these choices.

3. As grieving people, we’re dealing with circumstances outside our control like death and loss. It’s empowering to recognize what we CAN control. What choices we DO have. And to move forward from there.

That’s why it’s so important to choose with intention.

To Curate Grief.




I’m Charlene

After my mother died suddenly in 2013, I leaned into my creativity and instincts as a curator to guide myself through grief.

Now I help other people with their grief and experiences of loss. As founder and curator of The Grief Gallery™, I present exhibitions and events about grief and loss. As a certified grief coach, I use my Curating Grief framework to help people process grief and loss in a creative, accessible way.

Get Grief Support

Struggling with grief? Here are a range of ways to get the grief support you need.

Free Grief Gathering

Join us for The Grief Gallery’s free monthly grief gathering, on Zoom the last Wednesday of every month at 2pm ET. Creativity and community! 

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Private Grief Coaching

Get personalized individual grief support from certified grief coach Charlene Lam via Zoom or in-person in Lisbon.

Curating Grief Podcast

In the Curating Grief podcast, you’ll hear stories about the stuff, grief coaching advice and more.


Invitations to events and reflections on grief.

Creative Inspiration

The Grief Gallery

The Grief Gallery presents exhibitions online and in person about grief and loss, featuring the belongings of loved ones.

Upcoming Talks

I love speaking about grief, from death-related loss to life’s many transitions. Visit my Speaker Page or contact me at to learn more.

Life After Loss Virtual Retreat, Sept 18-20

Free 3-day event with 15+ presentations. My talk Curating for Comfort and Connection goes live Wed Sept 20th.

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Make Your Mark Live, Sept 21-22

In-person event in Dallas, TX or virtual event online. My talk Packing and Unpacking: Lessons from a Grief Coach is on Thur Sept 21st.

Passed and Present: Remembering Loved Ones During the Holidays, Nov 16th

I’ll be in conversation with fellow grief experts Allison Gilbert, Hope Edelman and Dr. Jason Troyer. Free event.


Curating Grief: Why Objects?

In this clip, I share why the belongings and meaningful objects play a key part in my Curating Grief approach to grief support and coaching.

Curating Grief: How It Started

In my signature talk, I share the origin story behind Curating Grief.

Charlene Lam

I help grieving people to feel lighter and less burdened after losing a loved one, using the lens of curating and the tools of coaching.

New York, NY | Lisbon, Portugal

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